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Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents by Gary Chapman–Book Review

 

Author of The Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman wrote this amazing book to help you get ready as you embark on the journey of parenthood. Each chapter discusses an aspect of parenting that Chapman wishes he and his wife would have known about before they had children, things he thought you would benefit if you knew them before your children were born.

 

I learned so much from this book even though I’ve already had children. Parenting is a daily learning experience. You learn new things every day as your children learn things. If you are expecting, or if you have young children, or know someone expecting or with young children, you need this book. It is chock full of practical advice for young parents. I was blessed by this book, and I believe you will be too.

**I received this book free from the publisher through the blogging program at mpnewsroom.com. I was not required to write a positive review and all thoughts and opinions are my own.

 

 

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Striving to be the Best Help Meet–Chapter 20

Chapter 20

This chapter focuses on being keepers at home. I recently have had the opportunity to become a stay-at-home mom, and let’s be honest, it’s a hard job! Even if you aren’t able to stay home with your children, we as moms have a great responsibility to raise our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. We need to teach them the things of God, and have them in church; teach them what’s right and what’s wrong. There are people who hate staying home, but I absolutely love being the one that stays home with my children everyday. I count it a privilege to raise my children and take care of my home full time. Yes, there are days I feel like I’ve lost my mind, and I do get completely overwhelmed. I still wouldn’t trade it for a minute. It’s hard work keeping the house clean, making sure the kids don’t hurt each other, getting dinner ready, etc. I love the way Mrs. Pearl defines being a “keeper at home” she says,

“Keeping the home is more than staying at home; it is having a heart that is fixed on the home.”–Debi Pearl, Created to be His Help Meet, Chapter 2

Keep up the good work. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” So instill in your children the Biblical principles they need now, so that when they are older they will fall back on them. Another big thing we need to do when raising our children, probably one of the most important things we need to do for our children is pray for them. Especially in this day and age, we need to pray more than ever for our children to be saved, to meet a Godly Christian spouse (it’s never too early to start praying for our children’s spouses), and that they would grow up to serve the Lord with their whole heart.

So don’t despair, we’ve all been there as moms. You may feel like nothing you’re trying to teach your children is sinking in, but one day when you least expect it, they will repeat something you’ve drilled into them, and you’ll realize that all your hard work is paying off. I pray that God would give us all patience as we keep our home, whether you stay at home full time, or are a working mother.

Want to learn more about the Pearls or grab your own copy of Created to be His Help Meet? Click here.

To see my thoughts on previous chapters click the links below:

Chapter 1                                 Chapter 11

Chapter 2                                 Chapter 12

Chapter 3                                 Chapter 13

Chapter 4                                 Chapter 14

Chapter 5                                 Chapter 15

Chapter 6                                 Chapter 16

Chapter 7                                 Chapter 17

Chapter 8                                 Chapter 18

Chapter 9                                 Chapter 19

Chapter 10

Striving to be the Best Help Meet–Chapter 19

Chapter 19

Modesty is important not just for wives and mothers, but for every woman and girl. We should not want to show off our bodies for everyone to see. I want to strive to teach my girls how to dress modestly and act modestly. Yes I said act. You can be dress in the most modest dress you have, it hits your knees, it covers your cleavage, etc, but if you sit with your legs sprawled or do high kicks in that dress everybody is going to see what’s under your dress (if you catch my drift?). Everybody has different convictions when it comes to modesty. Some people believe that you should only wear skirts and dresses, while others believe you can be modest and wear pants. I personally do wear pants, however as with everything you have to be careful with even pants. I don’t think you should wear pants that cling so tightly to your body that it leaves nothing to the imagination! Basically what I’m trying to say is, while we all have our convictions about what we wear, remember God does want us to dress modestly as to not cause our Christian brothers to sin. Remember that as you try on clothes on your next shopping trip. Yes it goes both ways, men should not gulk at women who are dressed that way, they should turn their heads, but as Christian women who know better we should want to help our fellow brothers in Christ so that we don’t cause them to sin. Besides, your husband probably doesn’t like it when you dress in such a way that other men are looking at everything you have. Save that for him. If you’re not sure about what is modest or not, pray over it, God will show you whether or not He’s pleased with it.

On a side note, I believe that nowadays there is more of a need to teach boys modesty as well. The clothes that are coming into style now are just as immodest for boys as it is for girls. For instance, the boys that wear skin tight skinny jeans to me is just as bad as a girl who is wearing skin tight clothing with her cleavage hanging out. So we have a responsibility to not only dress modestly ourselves and teach our girls modesty, but also to teach our little boys how to dress modestly and how to avert their eyes when they see an immodestly dressed girl/woman.

Want to learn more about the Pearls or grab your own copy of Created to be His Help Meet? Click here.

To see my thoughts on previous chapters click the links below:

Chapter 1                                 Chapter 10

Chapter 2                                 Chapter 11

Chapter 3                                 Chapter 12

Chapter 4                                 Chapter 13

Chapter 5                                 Chapter 14

Chapter 6                                 Chapter 15

Chapter 7                                 Chapter 16

Chapter 8                                 Chapter 17

Chapter 9                                 Chapter 18

Striving to be the Best Help Meet–Chapter 18

Chapter 18

Another trait of a virtuous wife is “to be discreet,” which Mrs. Pearl defines as “prudent; wise in avoiding error and in selecting the best means to accomplish a purpose; circumspect; courteous, polite, honest dealings.”  We need to be polite and honest at all times. This not only helps our character, but boosts your husband’s reputation. Can you imagine with me for a second? Envision a woman who is rude, obnoxious and dishonest. You just saw her notice that the cashier at the checkout gave her an extra $5 by accident. You see her count the money, but puts it in her pocket anyway. Now you’ve witnessed this woman’s rudeness to the cashier and how obnoxious she was as you made your way through the store listening to her the whole way through your grocery trip. In your mind you would think, “oh her poor husband!” or something like that. Do you want to be like that or have people think that about you or your husband? Now envision a sweet lady who on the same shopping trip you witnessed bump into a cart by accident, but instead of snidely remarking of how the person should have their cart somewhere out of her way, says sweetly that she’s very sorry and quietly goes on her way. Then at the same checkout you see her count her change and quickly come back to the cashier and apologize and give back the $5 extra. This woman you would probably think something like, “wow, what an honest woman, her husband is a very lucky man!” Now which woman do you want to be? I don’t know about you, but I’d much rather be the second lady! I hope that we can all strive to be this kind of woman, and in doing so we bring honor to our husbands!

Want to learn more about the Pearls or grab your own copy of Created to be His Help Meet? Click here.

 

To see my thoughts on previous chapters click the links below:

Chapter 1                                 Chapter 10

Chapter 2                                 Chapter 11

Chapter 3                                 Chapter 12

Chapter 4                                 Chapter 13

Chapter 5                                 Chapter 14

Chapter 6                                 Chapter 15

Chapter 7                                 Chapter 16

Chapter 8                                 Chapter 17

Chapter 9

Striving to be the Best Help Meet–Chapter 17

Chapter 17

This chapter Mrs. Pearl dedicates to training our children. A virtuous woman trains up her children in the way they should go. I love the way she describes training our children. She says that “training up a child means showing them how to cook ride a bike, demonstrate respect for others, etc.” In other words, training our children is not just teaching them reading, writing, arithmetic, and the basics of life, it’s teaching them how to cook, clean, etc.

Another aspect of being a great wife/mother to your children is learning about the best health options for your family. For example, research whether or not you’re going to vaccinate, and if so are you going to do the delayed vaccination schedule, will you skip certain vaccinations? Some people choose to go a more homeopathic route before they give their children antibiotics. An example of this in my own life, I am very intrigued by the essential oils. I have never used them as of yet, but I have friends that swear by them. I would love to try them, but just haven’t been able to do enough research to invest in them. I firmly believe that we need to take our family’s health seriously and should not take any “small” matter lightly. We should pray about every thing and ask God what He would have us do. There is much debate on homeopathic remedies vs. modern medicine, and on whether to vaccinate or not. The beauty of America is we each have a right to decide what our family will do.

Train your children to be the best they can be. Educate them in all aspects of life, from cooking and cleaning to riding a bike, and how to properly chop firewood. I’m not saying this is totally mom’s job, it’s a dual responsibility, but if you’re a stay-at-home mom you have a greater amount of time during the day while your husband is working to teach your children basic tasks even if it’s just taking your toddler around the house while you dust and give him/her a rag to “help.”

Chapter 1                                 Chapter 9

Chapter 2                                 Chapter 10

Chapter 3                                 Chapter 11

Chapter 4                                 Chapter 12

Chapter 5                                 Chapter 13

Chapter 6                                 Chapter 14

Chapter 7                                 Chapter 15

Chapter 8                                 Chapter 16

God Gave Us Angels by Lisa Tawn Bergren, art by Laura J Bryant – Book Review

God Gave us Angels

“God Gave Us Angels” by Lisa Tawn Bergren is an intriguing children’s book about a bear cub who asks his father all about angels. He asks everything from what they do, what they look like, if we should pray to them, and many other questions children may have. His father answers and explains all of the questions his bear cub has.

From the moment I showed the book to my daughter she was excited. The illustrations were beautifully done. As I read the book to her she was very interested in the story and learned a lot from this book even at her young age. I love that the book kept her interest and taught her a spiritual lesson in the meantime. I highly recommend this book for your children!

*I received this book from Blogging for Books for this review.

For more on author Lisa Tawn Bergren visit http://waterbrookmultnomah.com/author-spotlight.php?authorid=2093.

The Curious Stage

If you have a toddler or have gone through the toddler stage I’m sure you have been there. Our daughter is 2 1/2 years old, and I will say while she’s had her moments for the most part the “terrible twos” have not been that “terrible.” This week however, she has become very curious and mischievous to say the least. She has looked at me with a wild look in her eye and declared that she wanted to play with my eyebrows, demanded I smell her toes, played in the sink, insisted that she could make her own soup, etc….it’s been a very interesting week :).  My favorite  moment was when she was playing in the bathroom while I was putting some laundry away and talking on the phone. I could hear her and I kept checking on her because she was throwing all of the bathtub toys into the empty bathtub. I asked her from my bedroom if she wanted to get a bath and she replied yes. As I’m getting clothes together for afterward, I hear the water start running in the tub! I quickly yelled from across the hall that she better not get into the bathtub without me being in the bathroom and grabbed the rest of what we needed and ran to the bathroom. I find her fully dressed with her life vest for the pool on inside out over top of her clothes, the cold water running, all the toys in the tub, and a winter coat on the floor because she said, “it’s cold outside, I’ll need it after my bath.” (Side note, it’s the end of August and it was 80 or 90 out that day) I had to turn and laugh because she looked so cute standing there standing outside the tub eagerly waiting for me so she could get in.

Even though sometimes I get tired and lose my temper when her curiosity causes a mess, like when she dumped an entire cupful of water all over the bathroom floor instead of in the tub, I know that every moment is precious and one day I’ll wish she was this age again. I also remind myself that this is part of how she’s learning new things. (Please don’t think I let my toddler run the house and do whatever she pleases because that is NOT the case. I just know that a certain amount of curiosity is normal in a toddler at this age.) Life with a toddler is an adventure, and a fun one most of the time at that! Hang in there momma, know that you are not the only one going through this stage and not the first one either! I know sometimes it feels like we’re not getting through to them, but I am reminded when my toddler repeats to me something that I have told her she’s catching more of what I say and do than I think. I love my precious little girl and I pray that we raise her right, and that she will come to know Christ as her personal Savior at an early age.