“A good marriage is good because one or both of them have learned to overlook the other’s faults, to love the other as he or she is and to not attempt to change the other or bring him or her to repentance.”–Debi Pearl, Created to be His Help Meet, Chapter 13
According to Mrs. Pearl when we rise to authority over our husbands we are an “affront to God.” I loved how in this chapter she says to create a new habit of consciously showing esteem to your husband at least three times a day. It is very important to show our husbands we appreciate them and their good traits, and we should not scorn or ridicule them, especially in public. It is especially important to not ridicule them in public; this will not only embarrass them, but it can actually bring them shame, something we talked about in previous chapters. There’s a story in the book about a woman who has a drunk as a husband, but consciously only talked about the positive traits of her husband and brought him honor by doing so, and eventually this man started appreciating his wife. By doing something as simple as not telling the world about your husbands faults and by making a conscious effort to praise him to everyone instead, you will bring honor to him and in turn bring honor to God.
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