We are to be submissive to our husbands. This in not a new idea, but it’s a hard one to follow. According to the Bible we are to submit because it is a picture of the relationship of Christ and the church.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
This is pretty clear about the roles of husbands and wives. We should submit and not usurp authority over our husbands. Is that to say we have absolutely no say in decision-making and we’re the scum of the earth? No!! We can give our input to our husbands when we discuss decisions that need to be made, and husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Submitting doesn’t mean that we are weak. We have to submit to the authority of the government, and most people have no problem with that. For some reason however, women have a hard time being told they need to submit to their husbands. My husband and I discuss things, and I give him my input. Ultimately, he has the final say, but he always listens to what I have to say and what my opinion is. If he doesn’t go with what I say, he’ll usually explain why he did the opposite of what I thought was right, and you know what? 95% of the time the decision he makes, even though I disagreed with it, is what’s best for our family at the time. We are all human, and our husbands will inevitably make decisions that are wrong, and even though we’re tempted to say “I told you so” we must refrain from doing so. I have found that if I pray and ask God to give us both wisdom about whatever the decision may be, He will give us a solution that we can both be at peace with. I am so blessed to have an amazing husband who loves me and his children so much!
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